The difference between spamming friends and promoting your business

2010.07.11

in Best Practices,Nuts and Bolts

I’ve had an interesting back-and-forth via Facebook email with an old friend who is starting an orthodontia practice. I had complained in my Facebook status about my friends (some of whom, in the peculiar world of Facebook, I don’t actually know) who only seem to use Facebook to promote their band or their book or their business.

Some of that is perfectly fine, and when The Executive’s Guide to Enterprise Social Media Strategy is published, it’s for damn skippy I’ll be talking about it everywhere. It’s a part of me and what I’m doing, but it’s never going to be all of me or all of what I’m doing.

So where do you draw the line? How do you promote your business via social media in a way that won’t get you unfriended? Here’s what I wrote to my friend in response to that question.

The ones who annoy me are the people who I know as people, who friended me as people, and then never share anything about themselves. All they do is talk about their next gig or their business. The worst iteration of that is when they use Facebook email to send me emails about their shows and upcoming events.

In other words, when I signed up to be friends with Joe Blow, I did it because I know him and like him and am interested in his life. I didn’t do it because I wanted to get reminders three times a week on my wall and in my inbox that his band The Puffy Sleeves is playing in Greenville. When all you get is the business and none of the personal, it feels like bait-and-switch.

There’s a book by Jim Tobin from Ignite Social Media called Social Media is a Cocktail Party. The thesis is you don’t walk into a cocktail party and immediately start telling people about yourself and what you sell. You make a connection first, and if it’s appropriate to the conversation down the road, you might mention what you sell.

The right way to use Facebook to let people know about your band or your book or your business, in my opinion, is to create a Facebook page for that entity, then people have the option to “like” that page. When they choose to “like” it, they are opting in to receive messages in their Facebook stream. It’s clear what the purpose is and what kind of information they will be getting.

If you start a page for your orthodontia practice, think about what you can do to make it fun and informative. People have all kinds of questions, concerns, doubts and fears about orthodontia. What could you do to help them understand the big questions, get the right information to make better decisions, and show them that yours is a practice where they would feel welcome and maybe even have some fun?

photo by BarelyFitz

  • http://twitter.com/cjdinger Chris Hemedinger

    “Brace yourself”, “Working on retainer”, “Gearheads for Dummies”, “Corn on the Cob is for Savages” — blog post titles your orthodontist friend can use. Free, with my complements.

  • http://socialbutterflyguy.com/ DJ Waldow

    David –

    I think there is certainly a fine line. The problem I see keeps coming back to investment in time. If folks had all of the time in the world, they could use it to really understand how to best use some of these social media tools. They'd build relationships, engage, have conversations, etc. However, what happens – very similar to email marketing – is that when it comes down to a shortage of time, we tend to choose the blast/spray and pray tactic. Why? It's easier. It doesn't require brain power. And – most importantly – it can work … in the short run.

    As Amber Naslund has told me countless times, we make time for the things that matter. I agree with this statement.

    DJ Waldow
    @djwaldow

  • http://www.sueannereed.com Sue Anne Reed

    I rarely talk about social media, blogging, or even my work at the non-profit on Facebook. For the most part, my friends on Facebook are people that I know from school, church, or in other ways. I try not to friend someone on Facebook that I haven't met in person, and I encourage business contacts to connect with me on LinkedIn or on Twitter.

    I've tried to keep my networks separate in order to have some balance and its worked for me so far.

  • http://dbthomas.com David B. Thomas

    Thanks, Chris. I think you've priced them appropriately.

  • http://dbthomas.com David B. Thomas

    I agree completely, DJ. (Does anybody call you “Deej”? I feel compelled to do so.) I think it's ultimately destructive to jump in and do it wrong without putting in the time to figure out how to do it right. I've often heard people say it's better to not have a blog at all than a dormant blog, and I agree. I think it's better to not promote your business to friends on Facebook at all until you're ready to do it right.

  • http://dbthomas.com David B. Thomas

    Hi, Sue Anne. Thanks for commenting. I think that's a good approach that works for a lot of people. I was mostly using Twitter and LinkedIn for professional stuff and Facebook for personal and that worked for a while. Then, primarily because I do social media stuff as part of my job, the lines started to blur. I had some rough patches at the start (especially trying to work out all my feed and sharing settings) where some friends got annoyed that, for instance, I was posting my tweets to my Facebook page. (I shut that down after less than a day.) Now I have my personal blog and my work blog linked to my Facebook page. Sometimes my non-social media friends read and comment on a social media post; often times they ignore them. So far I haven't had anyone complain that seeing my posts in their stream was more than they want.

    In the end it's all about balance. I won't mind my friends talking about their professional activities if it's part of a varied stream of updates that also includes personal info and stuff that isn't about them at all.

  • http://socialbutterflyguy.com/ DJ Waldow

    Some people do in fact call me Deej. My sister calls me Deejer. K-Dawg (sometimes) calls me Deejers. You can call me whatever you'd like, but as my dad always says, “Don't call me late for dinner.”

    DJ Waldow
    @djwaldow

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