I see a lot of people looking at their phones

That’s a thing about being on public transit every day, and being in the city. People are always head down, looking at their phones. 

Sometimes they aren’t quite looking where they’re going. It’s easy to get annoyed, especially if they’re standing in the way, or walking slowly in a crowded place. 

I look at their screens as I pass “I nearly always do”. I’m amazed by how often people are watching videos. That doesn’t seem like fun to me, watching a movie or TV show in the middle of a crowd, ignoring all the life happening around them. 

But a lot of times I see people walk out of a building, or out of the BART, or pause on the street, and look down at their phones and smile. 

They look surprised and delighted and content. I imagine they’re reading a text from someone they love, and it’s making them happy, transporting them to somewhere beyond the rainy street or crowded train. 

Here are a few life skills worth mastering

A friend asked on Facebook what he should teach his teenage daughter before she went out in the world. There were a lot of good answers. Here are mine.

Making an omelet. Sewing on a button. One dish you can cook for company. Sorting laundry. How to give a concise yet sincere apology. Parallel parking. Watching the car in front of the car in front of you. Simple strategies for talking to strangers at social events. How to ask for what you want. An unshakeable conviction that “No, thank you” is a decisive answer in almost any situation.