The difference between spamming friends and promoting your business

I’ve had an interesting back-and-forth via Facebook email with an old friend who is starting an orthodontia practice. I had complained in my Facebook status about my friends “some of whom, in the peculiar world of Facebook, I don’t actually know” who only seem to use Facebook to promote their band or their book or their business.

Some of that is perfectly fine, and when The Executive’s Guide to Enterprise Social Media Strategy is published, it’s for damn skippy I’ll be talking about it everywhere. It’s a part of me and what I’m doing, but it’s never going to be all of me or all of what I’m doing.

So where do you draw the line? How do you promote your business via social media in a way that won’t get you unfriended? Here’s what I wrote to my friend in response to that question.

The ones who annoy me are the people who I know as people, who friended me as people, and then never share anything about themselves. All they do is talk about their next gig or their business. The worst iteration of that is when they use Facebook email to send me emails about their shows and upcoming events.

In other words, when I signed up to be friends with Joe Blow, I did it because I know him and like him and am interested in his life. I didn’t do it because I wanted to get reminders three times a week on my wall and in my inbox that his band The Puffy Sleeves is playing in Greenville. When all you get is the business and none of the personal, it feels like bait-and-switch.

There’s a book by Jim Tobin from Ignite Social Media called Social Media is a Cocktail Party. The thesis is you don’t walk into a cocktail party and immediately start telling people about yourself and what you sell. You make a connection first, and if it’s appropriate to the conversation down the road, you might mention what you sell.

The right way to use Facebook to let people know about your band or your book or your business, in my opinion, is to create a Facebook page for that entity, then people have the option to “like” that page. When they choose to “like” it, they are opting in to receive messages in their Facebook stream. It’s clear what the purpose is and what kind of information they will be getting.

If you start a page for your orthodontia practice, think about what you can do to make it fun and informative. People have all kinds of questions, concerns, doubts and fears about orthodontia. What could you do to help them understand the big questions, get the right information to make better decisions, and show them that yours is a practice where they would feel welcome and maybe even have some fun?

photo by BarelyFitz

When does “TGIF” sound like “I hate my job”?

It’s the Friday before the July 4th weekend. I’ve taken a week’s vacation to work on my book “a task from which I am now procrastinating by writing a blog post”, so I’ve been acutely aware of how quickly this week has passed. It reminds me once again that the perception of time’s passage is completely dependent on what you’re doing.

Decades ago I worked behind “the jump in a pub on the King’s Road in London. Two hours tending bar on a sleepy Sunday watching the antiques store crowd wander through and turn their noses up at our wine selection passed much more slowly than two hours frantically pulling pints for hundreds of Chelsea hooligans supporters packed shoulder to shoulder and trying to get bevvied up before the match.

Time passes more quickly when you’re busy, yes. But also, nobody ever complains about time passing slowly when they’re enjoying what they’re doing. This week has felt no longer than two or three days, because I’m thoroughly enjoying writing this book, and it’s hard to find time in a regular week to devote to it. So you’re not going to hear me say, “Thank God it’s Friday today, because I wish it was Monday again.

Every Friday, I see some of my Facebook friends saying “TGIF” On Wednesdays they celebrate Hump Day. Some get an early start bemoaning Monday on Sunday afternoon. Many post things like, “I’m really looking forward to the long holiday weekend with my family” or “Happy Friday, everybody” Posts like that sound positive and friendly.

Others post things like, “I can’t believe it’s only Tuesday. Will this week never end? It’s a small difference in semantics, but a big difference in perception.

Now don’t get me wrong. I’ve had plenty of Fridays that felt like they took a month to arrive. We’ve all had busy weeks we were glad to see the back of. If you use your social media channels to share with friends who know and love you, then a post complaining about your tough week will likely draw an empathetic digital pat on the back.

But what if you use social media professionally? What are you saying to your boss or your colleagues? What about your clients? If your first response to that question is, “I don’t care, I should be able to say whatever I want” then go ahead and stop reading now and best of luck in the future.

Those of us who are active in these channels put so much out there about our lives, and some of us tend to do it without thinking of the overall picture it paints. I’m talking about more than just the standard warnings against posting party pictures to Facebook or saying you think your boss is an idiot.

What does the totality of your social media presence say about you, as a professional? It’s possible your next boss will Google you before she even looks at your resume. What’s she going to think if the first thing she reads says, “God, I’m glad that week from hell is over?

I’m aware this may sound contradictory to my oft-stated belief that social media is helping us all be more human in positive ways. I know people get tired of work sometimes. I get tired of work sometimes. Everybody gets tired of work sometimes.

But why lead off with it?

photo by Brendan Adkins